Tags: Child Health and Growth, Parenting
By Marjorie Gorospe
QUEZON CITY, METRO MANILA— In some cases, parents are even more excited especially when it’s their kids’ first time to go to school. But what should parents do to protect their kids from becoming victims of school bullies?
In most cases, kids who become victims of bullies lose interest in going to school. Or, out of fear, they would tend to always want their parents accompanying them to school.
Child psychologist Ali Ng Gui suggests that parents should bring it to the attention of the school right away if their kids are being bullied. He advises parents to show support and make the child feel they are on his or her side.
“If your child is being bullied then you are naturally and understandably upset. You have a right to complain and to expect that the school will act to stop the bullying and ensure that it does not happen again,” says Gui.
Every school should have an anti-bullying policy that is transparent and available for scrutiny by parents. Even Department of Education secretary Jesli Lapus calls attention to this issue, noting that bullies usually end up joining gangs.
Gui, however, suggests that parents report incidents of bullying in a “constructive and non aggressive” manner and refrain from being emotional. It is important not to threaten or blame teachers,” she says.
“First, try to make an appointment instead of rushing to school right away,” she says, noting that teachers need time to resolve the issue.
It is also advisable that parents take notes beforehand of what they intend to discuss with the teacher. “Often, the fewer words you use, the bigger impact you make,” she says.
She also advises parents to keep a “diary of events” that tell the exact time and a detailed account of what happened.
“Continue to monitor for progress instead of punishing the bully in your own terms. If this does not stop, inform the head teacher that you are taking matters further and ask that bullying should be part of the agenda of the parent-teachers meeting,” Gui says.
But if all else fails and parents decide to transfer their kids to another school, she advises to look for a school with a clear anti-bullying policy. “You can speak to other parents while all of you are waiting to pick up your children after school,” she says.
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